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253 entries.
Cynthia wrote on May 30, 2018 at 7:19 am:
Hi Rach!! Night owl here and reading ur Q&As.
How did you and Wes met? Iโ€™m at my late 20s and feeling the pressure/urge and reluctance to social and meet new boys. Kinda clueless now for love life. Any tips/advise?
Ps: Try re creating this blocked concentrated late night environment during daylight. Maybe the feeling of steel time makes you high on creativity so maybe getting into a mood would help. Xx
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Hello fellow night owl! Wow that's actually a really good idea. I'll have to try that one of these days.

Wes and I met through mutual friends and were distant friends for a few years before we started dating. In some way, we were lucky enough to skip the era of dating apps. But man, I have noooo idea! I'm so out of touch. It seems like my friends who are in their late 20s and single rn have stopped focusing on their singleness and have been making impressive, personal strides in their spirituality and career. The feeling of 'expiring' as a woman can be ever pressing, but I think can be conquered within. I really do personally believe that when someone is truly ready to meet someone (and not for the sake of companionship), the energy opens up and love finds its way. ALSO, men have their single-sniffers out. ITS WILD. ESP IN LA. It's like women project horomones. YALL IVE SEEN IT WITH MY OWN TWO EYES.
lili wrote on May 30, 2018 at 4:04 am:
hey rachel! wondering if you ever hired an assistant? i think you mentioned it in one post or video, but i can't remember. are you still looking to expand? if you have hired an assistant, what's been his/her main tasks?
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I did!!! she has been amazing and honestly the best help I've had. we got along really well but when an offer for a full-time position fell into her lap, I encouraged her to take it because it would be an amazing experience for her to gain insight into molding her future freelance career.

I would be interested in another assistant again, but man, the internet can be so cruel. Publishing a post asking for paid-help, then having comments not only invalidate me as a creative but also paint my character as entitled and unnecessary, fill me with enough doubt and negativity to outweigh the enthusiasm that found my inbox. Is making a person feel horrible about themselves a successful goal? Does that make you sleep at night? Honestly, I'm really fucking curious how people can be so spiteful while filling in the blanks of someone else's life.

SORRY, end rant. I'm clearly still working out some of my internal battles with byproduct of putting one's self online hahaha.

To answer your question, she helped me a lot with managing projects, keeping my files organized, and editing photos. But it took 1-2 months to get to know each other and how we work.. especially since I only saw her once a week, that process took a while. We got into a groove the last month we were together. She was really helpful when I was consulting for Glossier and didn't have the bandwidth to plan/produce shoots, which she would do then help me with some content. Ultimately she helped me organize and started all my rough drafts. She was amaaazzzzing and always reminded me and told me that she would help with any little thing if it made time management easier for me. If you're reading this Brigitte, hi.
Li wrote on May 25, 2018 at 5:26 am:
Hi Rachel,

I was inspired by your bujo video at first, which I think it is the best tutorial I have seen on the YT. And then I started to look some of your other very inspirational videos and I felt resonant with your individuality and attitude to life/fashion. I assume it always needs some courage to be a freelancer, may I ask what makes you decide to be a freelancer? What is the biggest challenge/obstacle you have met so far?

Only the best,

Li
Admin Reply by: Rachel
HI Li ~ aw thank you. I'm so happy you enjoy my work! I became a freelancer because I worked in the industry for a bit before I started YT full time. Working for myself can be challenging because you never know when the next project is coming in. Since I have a more 'personal' brand, I also have to be mindful of the projects I take on... and I say 'no' to a lot of projects and opportunities. But the other side of freelance, I do that still because I know I'm good at what I do, and I might not always have the avenue to push it myself on my own platform (YT, blog), but I can translate what I know for another brand. It's complicated. I'm always hustling... it ever stops. Sorry, it's a pretty vague answer for a vague question. I hope it gave a bit on insight?
Rayven wrote on May 25, 2018 at 2:04 am:
Hey Rachel!

I'm just starting to get into jewelry pieces. I'm looking for minimalist-ish quality pieces that won't break the bank account. Would you mind recommending your go-to jewelry shops?
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I like the DTLA jewelry districts. It is pricey because you're buying real gold, but it's an investment that is definitely worth the money and will never go bad on you! x If you don't live in LA, look up wholesale jewelry marts around you ๐Ÿ™‚
leelee wrote on May 23, 2018 at 9:04 pm:
hi raychel! i'm always so stoked when i see a new blog post or video from you. do you find that a blog post or a video takes longer? curious as to why you don't publish blog posts more often (assuming bc it's a shit ton of work?!). but just know your followers looooove them and check for them every day. ๐Ÿ™‚
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Mostly because I dislike writing and never know what to say. But then editing photos, making sure they're resized and decompressed, figuring if GIFs and stuff would look good, designing out the post... all takes time. Edit a video is even more work as you can imagine! I work alone... on top of keeping up with a heavy inbox flow and press events during the day, I get burnt by the time I'm on my computer :((((((((
Olivia wrote on May 22, 2018 at 1:58 pm:
Hey darling - I have a few questions for you. First, will you be doing #30daysofthatschic this summer? Your summer vlogs are some of my favorites, I actually replay them more than would be considered normal I think. The second is advice. I fall into the habit of being self-conscious sometimes, and it envelopes me. I start applying it to all avenues of life - love, career, friendship, etc. Does this ever happen to you? How do you stay on top of your self-confidence? Thanks for being a constant inspiration to me -- Love always. xx
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I ran a Twitter poll based off this question, and the results skewed that way. So yeah, probably. Oh no, that's never a good feeling. Of course it happens to me; I think everyone feels a sense of self-doubt every once in a while. Everytime I'm in that rut, I sort of remind myself that I'm my own human and there's no one else like me. We are all our own individual and I disconnect and rediscover what makes me happy ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป
Amy wrote on May 22, 2018 at 2:07 am:
Hi Rachel!

I was wondering if you have any tips on finding personal style?
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I would try to steer away from things that are curated (clothing stores, websites, etc) and go to a thrift store and pull things that catch your eyes, then curate those pieces from there. But you know, it's hard. I'm still exploring what I like and it forever changes. I don't think I will ever have a definitive grasp on what my personal style is, and that's okay. That's just my style ๐Ÿ˜‰
Lilian wrote on May 21, 2018 at 4:23 pm:
Hi Rachel ๐Ÿ™‚ have you ever been on a long distance relationship? do u have any advice for those whoโ€™s in it?
Have a great day <333
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I haven't! So hard to answer that because I think it's completely personal and up to whatever you want? I need physical intimacy and personally, don't think I could open up if the variables weren't in that favor. Now, if Weston suddenly had to move, I truly have no idea how that will pan out and would be unfair of me to make some declaration on that - love is too finicky and moody for me. It's why I don't have tattoos haha
Linh Nguyen wrote on May 21, 2018 at 8:07 am:
Ayooo Raych!

I absolutely love your vibe and I often rewatch your videos to relax...a form of artful ASMR. I really loved your videos of Paris, especially the one of you spending time alone there. I'll be alone in Paris for three days this summer. Any advice on some places to people watch, meander, sketch, and take photos? Keep creating and keep being dreamy. Much love from NYC <3
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Paris is a lovely city to be alone in. There's strangely no pressure or looks for being at a cafe alone. Go to any outdoor boulangeries that you'll find on any given corner, order your fave day drink, and do exactly what you envision. Enjoy and live in the moment! x
Camry wrote on May 21, 2018 at 6:20 am:
Hi gal!! At a stage in my life where I'm unsure if I should create a blog because 1. is it going to be worth it????????? 2. are people going to read it? 3. what can I put on the table that isn't already there?

Really into fashion and would love to incorporate my belief in looking good w/o necessarily sacrificing too much $$$ + looking at putting myself out there as a Filipina lady who's moved to Australia at the age of 8. Would love to see more of what speaks to my identity on social media! But I figured, why wait if I can just do it myself and inspire those who struggle to relate to others because their identity is rarely exposed
Admin Reply by: Rachel
HI CAMRY ~

1. Why wouldn't your *unique* perspective be worth sharing?? or even better, worth documenting for yourself?
2. who the fuck cares, if they do, that's awesome! don't hold yourself to that expectation. creation should be for the creator and the creator only. the audience is a pleasant byproduct.
3. IDK, what is something you haven't seen that you want to see? it sounds like you have a unique story to tell and a way you seem you want to share it. So go for it! There's nothing that's majorly investing about starting a blog, which is why they're so awesome to make ๐Ÿ™‚

GOOD LUCK! We'll be looking out x
Jamie wrote on May 17, 2018 at 5:48 pm:
Hi Rachel,

What are your best diet/health tips to stay in shape?
What are your favorite places to eat in LA?

Love your channel <3

xx,
Jamie
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I say do a lot of research... you'll be surprised what you uncover about your food that can definitely turn you off to things. It's also one of those things that with micro changes, you start to see and feel major differences in your body that makes you want to maintain as best as possible!
Patricia wrote on May 16, 2018 at 8:49 pm:
Hey Raych! You seem very independent and also like a go-getter, but you still have time to be in a relationship. I know that is do-able but as someone in a similar situation I was curious: before you and Wes lived together, how often did you two see each other a week? How often are you together now whilst living together?
I am always fascinated by relationship dynamics!
Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I know it sounds counter intuitive, but being independent in a relationship, I think, is key. Wes and I really look to each other as partners in life and are each other's best friends! Before living together, we still spent at least 2-3 nights together, but now we're together, we hang out a lot more and do things together a lot more, which is really really nice. But we're still trying to find a balance because we're almost too close haha.
Shivani wrote on May 16, 2018 at 12:04 am:
Hey, I want to get into using film what are you film camera recommendations, I see you use that olympus one it looks cool! Also general digital camera recommendations for someone about to go travelling for four months through europe.
Thanks xx
Admin Reply by: Rachel
i personally rly like kodak portra right now - you can find on amazon!
rachel wrote on May 15, 2018 at 3:22 am:
hi name twin!!! in your new year new me reset video, you put on a pair of leopard pants in the beginning and i was wondering where you purchased them from? ive been so obsessed with leopard print lately (thank you devon carlson) and i need those pants!!!
Admin Reply by: Rachel
hi hi hi!! girl they're by a brand Sea, but I got them from none other than... TRR ๐Ÿ™ˆ
Shivani wrote on May 11, 2018 at 9:25 pm:
Hi Rachel,

Love your eye for the creative. Anyway, I wanted to ask how you take care of your hair after a workout. I've recently picked up running again and my biggest question is how I can take care of my hair. Naturally, my hair gets a little sweaty after a run, but I don't feel comfortable having to wash it with shampoo everyday because I know that it'll dry my hair out. However, I also don't want to keep my hair sweaty because I know that it's just as bad as over-shampooing. Is there a happy medium that you would recommend? Or, is it acceptable to shampoo and condition my hair everyday due to the sweat?

Thank you and much love,
Shivani
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I've read once that BO doesn't happen because of sweat, but because our armpits are dark and that's how we smell. I know it's gross, but I air out my head and go about my day after without shampooing for the same reasons you're concerned about. I don't find my hair getting oily after, just wet, so that's how I deal with it. And the day I can't stand how oily my hair is, I wear it in a tight pony all day as an attempt to further train my hair to not produce as much oil. I hope that helps? x
shay wrote on May 10, 2018 at 4:01 pm:
a year ago, i was cheated on by my 3 year boyfriend with a friend of mine whom i trusted. it has now been a year since it all happened and all i am is bitter and jealous over things that she has that i clearly dont (nice body, i got no curves, im basically a twig). my comparing myself to her has come to a point where i literally obssess over her everything. i know you might think its stupid but i still trust my boyfriend because i know him as the person as he is and i believe he made a mistake. but sometimes, i cant help but think that he still fantasizes about her because afterall, i caught him redhanded. it wasnt him who confessed. nowadays when she looks at me she acts as though she is superior to me because she "got my man" and i feel both infuriated and pathetic at the same time. i really try my best every day not to be a bitter and hateful person, but on some days, i feel like thats all that i am. how can i regain my confidence and be more productive with my life?

sorry for bringing up such a heavy topic - no pressure, i just wanted to reach out to you because you always inspire me to become a more optimistic and organised person in life!

love you raych x
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Hi Shay! I'm so sorry you are going through this. Infidelity is hard, and every case and relationship is different to gauge how things should move forward. But regardless, should you guys decide to work on this, it is his humble responsibility to give you the tools that you can trust him again and feel secure in your relationship. It's also very important to remember that your value as an individual isn't determined by someone else's actions. You are your own unique woman and so special beyond comparison that is not dependent on qualities any girl has or lack. As difficult as it is, you will only start healing when you can make a concentrated effort to focus on yourself rather than others. I hope that helps and best of your healing journey x
Beatriz wrote on May 10, 2018 at 3:49 pm:
Hi Rachel ๐Ÿ™‚

I am going on a trip with my friends in about a week, and will have to rot in a 20hour flight there and back. I however have a very important event coming up literally a day after my arrival and I am worried that my skin will shrivel up like a raisin and break out due to the long flight (my skin breaks out especially when dry during flights). Do you have any tips or advice? Is there anything specific you do in flights to keep moisturised and break out-free?
Admin Reply by: Rachel
how fun! girl you gotta pack on lots of face masks, and don't be afraid to use more than one during that long ass flight. i'd also carry a ziplock with soaked cotton pads of your favorite toner to keep balancing your skin's PH then slapping on some oil or a face mask to keep your skin hydrated. also, drink a LOT a lot of water and avoid the teas and coffee x
Kim wrote on May 10, 2018 at 6:49 am:
Hi Rachel! I was wondering where do you shop/get inspiration from when you need a dress as a wedding guest? The wedding I am attending requires formal attire and I need some inspiration please! thank you!!! <3
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Omg I always have a million cocktail dresses saved in my Real Real account in case I need to buy a dress last min. There's so many jewels on it. *plz email trr to sponsor me finally cause damn i talk about them sm*
Teresa wrote on May 10, 2018 at 3:52 am:
Hi chi Rachel!!
I've been a devoted subscriber to your channel for almost two years now. I'm really grateful I stumbled on your on videos because they are always so creative and different from what other creators put out, despite the fact that sometimes you go away. You constantly inspire me to do things outside of my comfort zone, especially in what I wear. Watching your videos also changed my perspective on love and how I should carry myself. Before I thought I would never want to fall in love, but seeing Weston and you together makes my heart melt every time. Anyways, I hope you have a wonderful rest of 2018 because you most definitely deserve it. I hope one day I can meet up and just say hello.
Bye bye~
Admin Reply by: Rachel
AW THANK YOU TERESA FOR THE SUPER SWEET COMMENT. SORRY I LET YOU DOWN AND DISAPPEAR. ILY THO
missthing wrote on May 8, 2018 at 11:24 pm:
Hola - I was very inspired by your Tulum vlog and am visiting this heaven on earth in a couple of weeks! Based on your experience, what are the must-sees, must-eats and must-dos?

Gracias in advance <3
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Haha I think it's all in the vlog! Cenote, beach, smoothies, have fun! Do a little research in your time off so you know some places to hit up ๐Ÿ™‚ have so much fun!!!! ๐Ÿก๐Ÿฆ๐ŸŸ๐Ÿฆˆ๐Ÿ 
Hannah wrote on May 7, 2018 at 3:30 am:
hey raych, on my 21st birthday almost a year ago you gave me a sweet gift & a note. on the note you told me to take lots of pictures. i kept that in the back of my mind from the moment i read the note until today and honestly, i didnt take much meaningful pictures my 21st year. most of it i was depressed up until recently. anyways, it turns out everything is okay and i can thank you for much of it -- for keeping me afloat when i felt i was sinking. today, i bought an olympus em10iii and i'm so excited to learn. im excited to put more meaning into my life. im excited you (and weston) gave me the push to open myself up to something ive always been interested in. thank you for being a part of my growth into an adult and for nurturing my spirit when it gets hangry. i hope one day i bump into you so i can thank you in person! xoxoxoxox hannah


oh yeah, my question! how do you find the happy medium between capturing a moment through a camera and enjoying the moment for what it is, without being behind a lens?
Admin Reply by: Rachel
omg ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ I forgot that I had written that for you and this beautiful note serves more than a thank you. i am so touched by your message. thank you for writing to me.

There's really no medium for me, I genuinely enjoy taking photos and sometimes it's the experience of the connection I'm having with the subject and my action of capturing how I feel that makes photography so fun. But also, resist the urge to review photos right after you take it. Capture, put your device down, and continue on with your life. Alsoooo I never look back and wish I took less photos โค๏ธโค๏ธ
Lilly wrote on May 7, 2018 at 1:51 am:
Hi Rachel!

I'm currently trying to create a Wordpress site and am looking for a good theme. Would you be able to say what theme you use or suggest any good sites to buy one from?

Lilly x
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Sorry Lilly ~ don't really know the themes, I think my developer did this from scratch.
celia wrote on May 6, 2018 at 10:07 pm:
how can i talk about my decision not to buy fast fashion with people without sounding like I think im superior? im 16 and everyones obsessed w/ fast fashion and its just hard to explain to people why i don't shop at those stores. people get defensive if i say i think its unethical and tell me its too expensive and i'm spoiled.( when in reality all of my clothes are bought second hand.)
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Love that you're thinking about this at such a young age! My first reason is that it's never as well made as designer pieces and that if I had $100 to spend on clothes a season, I would rather put that money towards something that will hold its value to resell and also withstand the test of wear. But yeah, you vote with your dollars and it's hard to support fast fashion brands that are usually trend driven and go out of style. Always nice to explain where you come from without making people feel like they're being shamed for their choices. No one is a perfect consumer and you happen to wear lots of second-hand as well ๐Ÿ™‚
Michelle wrote on May 6, 2018 at 5:39 am:
I really want to start investing in quality designer clothing & was wondering what are some of your favourite brands (go to designer labels) as well as your staple/investment pieces in your closet? Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I don't really have specific ones I'm married to, a few brands I always look for on TRR are the classics like Balenciaga, Chanel, Prada, Dries van Noten, Moschino. Love a great top and dress. Sorry that's so vague.
Fabbine wrote on May 5, 2018 at 3:05 pm:
Loooong time fan here--thank you for doing what you do! I just got engaged and am excited for a winter wedding! I love your style and you always seem to know cool brands. Other than ref, do you know of any cool wedding stores? what type of/brand of wedding dress would you wear if you were getting married? xoxo
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Hahah, I honestly haven't really thought about my wedding dress. I personally would probably go with something vintage and repurpose/refit to give it a second life. Makes me sad that such beautiful dresses are made only to see the light of day once. Have an amazzzzzzing wedding and time shopping for it!! ๐Ÿ‘ฐ๐Ÿป๐Ÿคต๐Ÿป

Oh also, sometimes Yoox has some amazing finds.
Diane wrote on May 5, 2018 at 9:04 am:
Hey, megababe Raych! What do you do when you get burned out? Also how do you cleanse your way out of career/personal rut?

PS. I love you so much YOU are the ultimate influencer of my life and you're all kinds of amazing. xo
sending love from Manila, PH
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Usually when I get burned out, I take a step back and try to figure why I'm burned out to begin with... usually I'm tired of looking at the same thing, listening to myself when I edit, etc... and I truly just disconnect and live life until my mind is clear again and I can find what's new to inspire me.

Ps, thank you for the kindest words so much thank you
Sofia wrote on May 5, 2018 at 7:09 am:
Hello Rachel! You have really inspired me to be more myself and give time to my creative side. This might sound weird but watching your videos gives me a feeling of summer, this happy light and free feeling! Now to my question: I live in Sweden and in the beginning of june I am traveling to SF and LA! Do you have any travel tips (not so typical tourist tips hehe) in LA?? Whats you favourit stores? Thank you! Hugs from Sweden! <3
Admin Reply by: Rachel
That's so sweet of you Sofia! Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

I really need to make an LA guide one of these days, but any time I travel anywhere, I always try to connect with someone through a friend or even through IG because the eye of a local is incomparable to what you discover on your own. Shops, I love perusing Melrose Place and a few vintage shops on Melrose like Wasteland. Hope that helps and enjoy your time here! xx
DINA wrote on May 5, 2018 at 3:11 am:
Hey Rachel, what are some of your favorite jewelry brands ? I love your channel so much! Iโ€™ve been watching you for quite a while now which kinda leads me to the next question... do you miss your platinum blonde hair?
Xx, Dina
Admin Reply by: Rachel
I don't really have favorite brands, I buy a lot of vintage or from the gold wholesale market. But I do love Young Frankk - my favorite gold hoops! And, the hair was a great time in my life, but I don't really miss it. It ended up being too hard to maintain and more people seem to be rocking that hair now which naturally turns me off from it.
Elena wrote on May 4, 2018 at 11:50 pm:
Hey gal! Iโ€™ve been a long time lover of your content across your platforms and always am inspired to step outside of the box with my own YouTube channel when ever I watch your videos (I recently incorporated a clothes line into one of my videos after being inspired by your English thrift video, so huge thanks for that). Iโ€™d love to know what your first job was when you moved to LA and how did you land it? How long were you there before you went full time on your own?
Admin Reply by: Rachel
That's so inspiring to hear. Your content looks beautiful - I can't wait to watch the video. My first job was at Paige as a menswear designer and I got it through my friend who was the creative director for the men's department. We met through my blog actually, so putting your work out in the world can definitely open you up to different opportunities! But I was there, then I moved to ShoeDazzle as a content producer (also got this position because they were a fan of my blog), then I started the YT channel and left to do it full time ๐Ÿ™‚ That was about 3 years all together!
Anonymous wrote on May 2, 2018 at 3:18 am:
I always feel as though there was some "purpose" in life that I need to fulfill. Otherwise, what is the point of life if it is always a struggle and I am always hustling to achieve my goals. How do you find a sense of calm or even feel content with your life currently? You always appear so determined in your videos and appear to truly enjoy your life. What is your best advice for someone feeling lost and uninspired with what they currently have?
Admin Reply by: Rachel
Love your ambition!! To answer your question, I think I find solace in knowing I'm doing the best I can with what I have. Even 'thriving' creatives you see online have so many goals they're constantly chasing and it's a matter of finding solutions to battle these ideas into execution. The best advice for someone who is finding their tracking again is to be okay with being lost and let that transport you to where you need to me. I fully believe that manifestation and the universe guides you to where you want to be in life if you are putting in the energy and work to see your goals โœจโšกโœจ